Happy Monday Reader,

Do you feel overwhelmed with everything that you have to do? Or like you’re constantly behind — or the only one carrying the load?

This week we are going to explore areas of your life that you may be trying to do it on your own – and not asking for the help that you need.

The prompt to start with is:

Where am I trying to do everything on my own?

Create a list of everything you do without assistance.

Then ask yourself: Where should I be asking for help?

If you’re not sure where to begin, start by sorting through your list and noticing what drains you emotionally or falls outside your natural strengths.

For example, maybe cleaning feels stressful and overwhelming. Or perhaps you don’t mind doing bookkeeping, but your partner is actually better at it.

From here, choose one area that feels most important to receive support with and ask yourself:

Why am I not asking for help with this?

This is where limiting beliefs, old patterns, or your sense of self-protection may begin to surface. You might notice thoughts like “No one can do it the way I want,” “No one is ever really there for me,” or “I don’t deserve help.”

If this happens pick the one that you feel the most resistance or emotions around and focus on understanding that voice in your head.

These prompts can help you understand it better:

• Is this a valid reason or am I using it to justify something else?
• What am I afraid might happen if I ask for help?
• What do I believe asking for help says about me?
• Where did I learn that I had to do everything on my own?
• In what ways has doing it all myself kept me feeling safe — and in what ways has it cost me?

Finally, once you have a clearer understanding of what you need help with — and what’s been blocking you — take a moment to imagine what it would feel like to be supported.

If I allowed myself to receive more support, how might my energy, time, or joy begin to shift?

When you’re ready, choose one small thing and consider asking for help with it this week.

Have a great week,

Andrea

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Resources

📰How to Stop People Pleasing – feel like you can’t ask for help because that would disappoint others? Check out this article on people pleasing and how to stop. Written by me – a recovering people pleaser!

🎥Reiki to Help You Call in Nurturing Relationships – sometimes the solution to asking for help is getting the right people in your life. This Reiki video will help you call in nurturing relationships.

🧘‍♂️ Self-love healing meditation – if you are struggling with feeling worthy of getting help, then working on healing to feel like you are worthy will help. But we don’t always know where to start. This meditation calls upon your guides to help you see where to start.

​YouTube​

​Insight Timer​

​Podcast Episode 51​

🤝 If you know what you want to ask for but aren’t sure how to ask, this may be a great area to ask for help! Practice asking for help by getting help with asking. A therapist is a great addition to help you ask for what you need.

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